I started out writing this blog several times on Sunday and it never felt right. The words weren’t flowing, I was feeling pretty ill, I have been all week and it was feeling like more of a chore to keep my agreement to blog for Monday, rather than a passion. I was trying too hard, I realised I was attempting to force it and so I sat on it for the day.
Eventually the power of trusting the inspiration to come, of going WITH the flow, was fruitful and it wrote itself within a matter of minutes.
Yes, I’m also practising what I write about. 😉
Wishing you all a wonderful week ahead! Go out have fun, fill it with love, hugs-aplenty and joy, lots and lots of joy in every way, because you all deserve it and so much more. ❤
Today’s inspiring self-love jar selection, courtesy of Henry the ever-inquisitive cat:
Self-love comes easily to me! ❤
I’ve made no secret about the fact of what got me to walk in love, to dare to be my own best friend and to even consider wanting to fall madly and deeply head over heels in love with myself first and foremost, was in fact self-abuse.
Oh I was great at loving others, abundant to the max in that department! Yet when it came to me, ooh for sure there was a huge blockage there. I gave 100% yet only allowed in 10%.
A lifetime of learned destructive behaviours, angry hateful thoughts and actions, and shocking undermining limiting beliefs for MANY years was driving me until something in me pinged:
I had to learn to take my finger off the love-valve, to let myself receive it too.
I then invited myself into the land of “no more!!!”
No more hatred, no more criticisms, no more belittling myself because quite frankly those inner scars were beginning to show and I didn’t want that to happen, people would see and know it all. 😦
No more “stinkin thinkin”, no more doing things which left me depleted, no more being the ‘it and the all’ for the entire World and getting nowhere myself!
No more eating, sleeping and acting in ways which only served to shut me out, to numb myself to the wonders of what I could be…And yes many the world over are guilty of this one too; the power of numbing to dull our potential, to ensure that we still “fit in”.
No more living in a box which never fitted me anyway; who was I actually kidding all of these years?
No more wanting to like or be liked just to save face or to avoid undue confrontations; I may have been willing to let my inner lioness ROAR her way out of a situation if absolutely necessary, yet I rarely let it out, in case I totally lost it and did something I couldn’t undo. (It became clear later that I was actually terrified of the power of my own anger, because it had been pushed down and stewing for so long.)
No more beating up on myself in ways which I would not allow others to treat me, so no more name-calling, criticising, putting myself down inside my head or to others. No more picking fault or showing disgust and hatred to and of my body, treating it with utter contempt: I was beautifully born as me for a reason and it was about time I started to celebrate that fact.
No more belittling myself or my talents to others, especially no more keeping quiet on my life because I was ashamed, felt I was “too-much” or was judging myself as a failure. NO MORE!!!
At this point you may be asking how I went from that to love?
Baby steps, lots and lots and lots of baby steps.
From sifting through and observing the stinky thoughts and things which run in my head daily to watching the actions I took and consciously stopping myself if necessary, to ask if “what I am about to do or say serves me in love or hatred?” Throw in mantras, meditations, mirror work, gratitude journals for myself and my greatness, conscious kind and loving acts, even taking myself out on dates to learn how to treat me as I would wish a love to treat me, and so on and so on.
Plus I developed an endless supply of willingness, compassion and most definitely patience, as I learned a new way to live. 😉
Does it sound like a lot of work?
Well that’s because it was in the beginning, yet it didn’t seem like it.
You see, what was powering me up and making me so determined to learn what self-love was, what it even meant or how to begin finding ‘MY’ way of applying it in my life, was a small flicker of remembrance deep down inside of my heart which said “self-love comes easily to me“.
Once I heard and felt it, even if only for a split-second the first time, I knew it was true and I just had to keep going.
So can you!
The day that you truly feel and realise it, is a day you will never forget. Mine was Valentines Day, February 14th 2014 and it changed me forever more. ❤
Wherever you are with you own journey, self-love is the most precious gift in the world to give yourself.
Repeat with me, you heart will remember it and you will feel it too:
“Self-love comes easily to me. Self-love comes easily to me. Self-love comes easily to me. Self-love comes easily to me. Self-love comes easily to me. Self-love comes easily to me. Self-love comes easily to me. Self-love comes easily to me.”
With practice it will become your natural state of being, shining brightly like the sun.
Because you’re worth it! 🙂
❤ Go out and be fabulous today, I believe in you. ❤