It’s always amusing to me to look back on my week when sitting down to blog for the week ahead, because whether I realise it at the time or not, invariably the things I like in other’s blogs or those which I blog about the week before, end up being my tests or opportunities to step up and be the example of in the weeks which follow.
Grace and synchronicity in action. ❤ xx
Last week I reblogged SpiritualJourney17’s great quote from Mother Theresa. In the quote (which can be found here), there were 2 lines which jumped out at me and would later become my gift to my friend too:
… People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway. ….
… If you do them good today, they may forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway. …
I ended up being the example of greatness in illustrating this with a friend last week.
He’d received exceptionally poor treatment from the same landlord as I myself left behind back in October, and he too was moving as a direct result of their in-action and blatant disrespect.
When I’d moved, he joked at my expense at how thorough I’d been and determined to leave behind an immaculate flat, leaving it with a sense of excellence for the next person in spite of the treatment I’d received.
He just didn’t get it, why would I care so much when they didn’t care about me?
“It’s not about them”, I’d said.
He’d looked extremely befuddled at this. Though neither of us knew it at the time, he was to later learn the little nugget of wisdom which drives this behaviour too and I was to be a part of it.
Believe me I never used to behave in this way either, vengeance was definitely my former go-to mode when I’d been wronged…or at least when my ego was rah-rahhhing that I’d been wronged. (Not always the same thing!) The old-me, she was all about fighting injustice as I am still, yet previously it was mistakenly in the form of vengeance, until I was thankfully shown a new way to be.
My friend may not have understood it at first, yet only 48-hours later he would see in himself a complete turnaround on this situation as a direct result. By Friday last week, he was thanking me for being willing to show up for him and persisting to show him a different way, even during his MANY protests at the time about it being unreasonable and unfair on him, because of their treatment of him, etc.
By the end of it he’d found a way to redeem himself and his good nature, without feeling hard done by too. He’d felt what it was to have the experience of putting in the action to honour himself and leave behind excellence despite the scenario.
All because he was willing to trust, I’d shown up for him and by him living the experience, it had changed his thinking, his actions and his beliefs around being mistreated by others.
He understood the power of forgiveness and the sense of accomplishment he could create in being willing to let the other stuff go. It was never about them despite how it looked, it was only ever about him and how he behaved.
It often just takes a little willingness to begin with, and then you take it from there.
Love in the form of kindness, forgiveness and living excellence is so very powerful. ❤
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